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Back home safe and sound, but our internet is kaput. Mystery Man working hard on trying to figure it out. If you don't hear from me for awhile, that's the problem. Will check in occasionally after work from *bucks.

Talk amongst yourselves.


Time To Pack Up and Boogie On Down the Road

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  • Flip flops
  • Fuschia and lime green beach towels
  • Liam's onion rings
  • Crystal Lite lemonade
  • Sunflower beach umbrellas
  • Jingle shells
  • Whelk casings
  • Warm peanut butter sandwiches dusted with sand
  • Hellava Good Bacon horseradish dip

Surf

  • Breaching humpbacks
  • Penuche fudge
  • Vanilla salt water taffy
  • Sundae School Coconut & Frozen Pudding ice cream sundaes
  • Cook's Lobstah rolls
  • Frozen strawberry daiquiris
  • G&T's on the deck
  • Breakfast coffee made by Mom
  • After dinner coffee on the deck with the candles that blow out every 2 minutes

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  • 8:00 a.m. beach sketching by myself
  • Coffee with next to Constance McCashin and our chatting as I sketch her dog,  Zeus (scan to follow)
  • Family Lunch on the deck with siestas to follow
  • Turquoise streaked water crystal clear 20 feet (fathoms?) down
  • No makeup for two weeks!
  • Hairdo options limited to lobster clips!
  • Keens for 2 weeks!
  • Soft grey days made for reading on the couch

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  • Moleskinerie watercolor sketchbook attached to my hand
  • My battered Liz Claiborne straw hat
  • My blue and white beach chair
  • My books!
  • Reading all day
  • Sketching at the beach
  • Watercoloring before dinner
  • Knowing the tides
  • Watching the sunsets

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  • Little bodies swimming like seals in the water
  • Actual seals in the water
  • Shave ice on the pier
  • Hot chocolate on the beach
  • Cracking the lobster claws
  • Checking out beaches
  • Sleeping in
  • Staying up late
  • No phone calls

These are a few of my favorite beach things.





Summer of Her 14th Year

The cousins took off today. And though A. is a superwoman, the littlest of her brood was wearing her down and she decided that the single parenting week was over. She honestly has the most well-behaved children I've ever been around, and that includes mine.

Since it was cloudy and boring after their leave-taking, I spent the morning working on an art piece due August 1st - as in right after I get back. It's three-quarters done and I'll finish up some tonight and leave the rest for home where I have some collage stuff I need to use. We decided to get out of here and go eat lunch and shop when The Little One announced that she was going to have Spaghetti-o's and watch The Price Is Right. Hastily, we made her dress and spirited her off out of bad TV and foodland, where she usually gladly resides when not longboarding or skimboarding.

Thereafter, she snapped out of her summer morning daze and longboarded from the cottage down to the beach.

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I do look at this child and wonder where she came from sometimes. She is funny and athletic and can wear a two piece suit while longboarding and never lose her poise. I, on the other hand, could barely bear to take my t-shirt off at the beach and never played on a team in my life. She knows more about cars than the salesman at Toyota and usually gives me a heart attack once a day by screaming while I'm driving down a busy road because she just saw a Bentley, while I, of course, think I'm about to  run over a woman with a baby carriage.

On the first day, she got busy at the beach as soon as her feet hit the sand.

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Making The Princess & The Boyfriend

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And The Cousin

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wonder just what the heck she was up to.

It appeared to be some sort of symbol for the seaplanes going  by

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or some type of boundary demarcation to protect our site from loud-talking close-sitters.

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Give up? Don't care? Wondering whether the salt water has gotten to my brain as well as my hair?

Yank

Yes, it's the Yankees logo, designed to inflame all the rabid Red Sox fans lovely people of Massachusetts.

But really, her true nature is that of a teacher, not an inciter of beach riots.

Here she is teaching the cousins the finer points of beach life.

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Namely, to make sure you always rent a house that has wireless Internet so you can watch videos of amateur drummers doing AC/DC covers.

While she wasn't doing that, she was teaching B., the one on the right how to skim board. Over. And. Over. For. Days. Or playing Uno with T.or debating the finer points of YouTube with J., the oldest, who is now asking his mother why they don't have a laptop.

Sorry A.

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She's missing her Dad right now. And all the cousins. She has no one who will play ball with her. (I said I stink at sports.) But after a few t-shirts, a good afternoon of skim-boarding, a bag of candy from the candy store, and a promise of one more lobster before we leave, she seems to be handling it okay.

Oh, and now her friend is taking her to Montauk when we get back.

Can I be 14 again???



So I Found the Camera Cable

A few random shots of Week One .

The bliss of vacation anticipation. The trinity of vacation needs: craft, art, and reading. Here are my quiltie flowers. (update: haven't unpacked the pieces and sewn a single stitch).

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The art supplies, now those I have used everyday. Scans to come.

Art

Books: I finished the two Provincial Lady books within two days, good junk food reading, though surprisinglycurrent. Kept checking the pub date to see if it was a contemporary satire. Case Histories was interesting but I was disappointed to read that her next book will feature the same gumshoe. The book about Japan is read in fits and starts because the moment I pick it up, I throw it down and grab my sketchbook and go outside. Alan Hollingsworth's Line of Beauty is slow going and I've abandoned it for the moment and slipped in Being Mrs. Alcott, which as my sister said, is about two steps above a romance novel. Very disappointing.
We did resort to watching The Gilmore Girls one hot night on The Island.

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Finally, we arrive on The Island. Note the bridge, the water lapping the road, and the very brave, fly-resistant lady with her easel and pastels. I mean, can you get more Capey than this??

Bridge

Here is the back deck, a charming if rudimentary set of chairs and the requisite outdoor shower in the background. The Boyfriend loved the outdoor shower, especially in the dark. I, however, am afraid of creepy night things and showered inside.

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The hammock - now you've seen the two charming spots of the rental.

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A rare shot of The Princess and The Empress taken by moi in the hammock.

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A more representative Island shot: The Princess applying packing tape around the fans to cut off all ingress by The Bugs:

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Tomorrow: We escape The Island for The Ocean.



Currents

The beach is narrow and wide and we can, if not as lazy a bunch as we are, walk to it. Of course, we have the excuse of chairs, thermos, basket, and the other fol de rol that we just must have and so we drive down, and are shamed by our cousin who drops off all her stuff, drives her car to the house, and then runs back to the beach.

We only tolerate her because she got us all knitting again a few summers back.

I am anxious to feel the waters of Nantucket Sound. They've been promised to me as warmer and much gentler than the Atlantic surf that I can no longer manage with Wounded Knee.  The waves are tiny and the water looks clear but our faces fall at the blanket of sea weed that covers the sand down to the water and as far as the eye can see. The Little One is despairing and insists we leave.

But then we spot a sandbar that emerges as the tide goes out and the water around it sparkles with midsummer rays. Soon it is covered in brown arms and legs and boogie boards and skim boards fly like sleds on a snowy hill. In between the sandbar and the shore is a narrow channel and as the tide goes out, the current is swift, but the water only knee deep. The kids cross it to get to the sandbar and soon discover that the channel is the place to be as they float on their backs and are carried effortlessly to the shore.

Our sand chairs are at the waters edge and we put away our books and just watch the kids carried past us as if on a long flume ride at an amusement park. Some choose to use boogie boards, others have inner tubes, and most just jump in and lie back for the ride. One of the wee cousins needs his brother to catch him so he doesn't go under and his mother paces the shoreline, ready to wade in case he slips past us. I am sorely tempted to join them, but the wind is strong and I am quite cool and not sure about needing to be wet.

Then I notice a group of ladies of a certain age. One tall with blonde hair, one short with short dark hair and a baseball cap, one in between, squat as a fireplug. They are watching the kids with rapt attention and marveling at the fun. I am distracted for a minute by the need for cookies by our swimmers and when I look up,  the women are floating past us, sitting in the water as it on a magic carpet ride, their toes pointing every which way as they bump into each other and shriek. They look around at each other, unsure if they should be enjoying such a childish pursuit.  And then a sound erupts from them, the sound of pure, whimsical, childlike, full-throated, high-pitched giggling. Self-conscious in their delight, they yell at us, "It's really fun!" They continue to giggle as they float past us as graceful as baby ducks taking their first swim, their mirth a backdrop to a perfect mid-summer day at the beach.  They bob into each other and giggle and then give a full-throated cheer as they reach the end of the sluice and jump up to walk the sandbar and jump in again.




From Ridiculous to the Sublime

Beds with soft sheets and "pillow tops".

Clean appliances - better than home.

A half mile from a lovely beach on Nantucket Sound.

Hydrangeas in shades from deepest purple to scarlet to heavenly blue.

A huge crab apple with spreading shade.

A big deck with chairs with bottoms - and cushions

A table with an umbrella (good thing pouring rain for two days)

And wireless! (already on too much - will limit to one check in a day)

Fancy shmancy down here. We've traveled from the forearm of the Cape to the right below the elbow. The road says we traveled north but all senses and map say  south. The Little One says it's too fancy for the Cape, methinks it's fine.

Big thunderstorms and pouring rain bring change. The Cousin is deemed too sick to stay by her mother and she left with Mr. Pom in the early hours this morning. We shall miss her! She didn't even get to go to her favorite shop as it was closed Sunday night. Who will make our salads and pasta dinners??

Wretched, wretched Cape Cod Crud. Someone always gets it. This year it has swept through the clan. The two cousins have some levity last night, pretending they are married a la The Honeymooners meets The Flintstones and have a conversation filled with dese dem and dose while they set the table for dinner. Then then The Little One lapsed into a coughing fit and The Cousin had to lie down for a nap before dinner. We are pretending we are a sanitorium in Switzerland.

Other cousins due tomorrow if they will brave the germs.

Off to sketch and take photos this grey and windy Sunday morning.

We shall miss Mr. Pom and The Cousin. We shall try to muddle through without our Cruise Director and Chef.

We shall be filled with glee that there is one more week without work!

And we shall upload pictures soon as Mrs. Pom remembers in which of her four totebags she shoved the cable for the camera.


Dear Mr. Summer House Owner

Having rented over 20 houses in 20 years, here are  some helpful suggestions to you, Mr. Summer House Owner/Lessor:

  • If you expect three women and two girls to take garbage to a dump, let alone locate where the dump is on a map - your rentals will be few and far between
  • Blue painter's tape over the shredding front door screen does not a good impression make. Consider replacing 100-year old screen door with one that stays shut because as though we come for the nature, we prefer to view it through a screen.
  • A double bed is a double bed not a queen bed and if you list it as a double bed, we have to put two flat sheets horizontally on the bed and use the contoured sheet as a little blanket/condom since we have no queen sheets.
  • In the same room, please consider an inexpensive slipcover (Christmas Tree must sell them) to cover the shredded arm of the loveseat.
  • A shower curtain is meant to go to the floor, unless the house was rented with an indoor pool and we didn't read the fine print.
  • If we are to clean the house before leaving, perhaps some cleaning products would be helpful, especially one that gets the black hairs out of the refrigerator from the previous tenants.
  • Lightshades that are broken can be replaced, not just shoved on at an angle (op.cit Christmas Tree reference)
  • If the house is supposed to sleep 7, it is practical to provide more than 5 seats.
  • On the subject of seats, we think the deck chairs are meant to have bottoms under the cushions, or else they are meant to be tiny hammocks for our rear ends?
  • Giant gold Tibetan mask on bedroom wall? Clashes with chipped plaster mirror and shredded loveseat.
  • Kudos for the tide clock. Did you know that after 7 days it has to be reset or else you will think it is high tide and be waiting to leave for good and then discover that high tide is in another hour and you've been wasting time staring at each other.
  • Lastly, you may think you house is worth 4 figures a week, but you were probably confused and looking at the reflection of the house across the street dirt lane with the wide deck, patio tables with umbrella, crow's nest, and tennis courts. 
  • Don't you hate when that happens?

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Pictures to follow. I'm too busy administering Zithromax to Young One with bronchitis and taking new antibiotic for myself. Oh, and cousin feels sickly now....Mr. Pom is making noises about leaving today. Yeah, like that's going to happen!!


It's Smurry.

Don't know if it's a bona fide meteorological term, but "smurry" is when it's misty and cloudy and the sun sometimes peeks out. Which describes today, but not last night when we were grazed by the reaching fingers ofTropical Storm Berle. Not nearly as dramatic as we would've liked it to be, but since Mr. Pom barely survived the great electrical storm of mid-week (no power, falling tree blocking road - again - refer back to February or March archives for similar incident), I was grateful that we didn't have to abandon the island or prop up the roof with a two by four.

The Princess and The Boyfriend barely made it home mid-week. After very responsibly deciding that they could only miss two days of work, they took off innocently from our sunny day and drove straight down I-95 into the mouth of the  monster storms that we later found out were ranging from Philadelphia to Boston. (I don't watch TV or read anything but the local paper while on vacation, so who knew?) When she called from the shoulder of the highway in Rhode Island to say they couldn't see for the rain, her (hysterical) mother started chanting, "motelmotelmotel" (imagine how The Empress felt about that! ) but it was an emergency, so The Princess ended up missing work on Wednesday anyway, but the important thing was that she was safe!

Mr. Pom arrived in very good time on Wednesday night and the tides cooperated and we were able to drive him in. Yesterday we went to the beach despite overcast skies, determined to get all of the ocean we could. Hot chocolate was called in for sustenance and warmth, but just when Mr. Pom was making a trip to the snack bar, the heavens opened and the women were left to scramble and load ourselves like pack mules and make our wet and soggy way to the car. Mr. Pom was credited with suspicious timing and we all shivered in the car as we sat in traffic. You have no idea how many people are at the beach until they all leave. At once. Onto the roads.

So what's a girl to do but go The Brewster Bookstore on a rainy afternoon? I've been hunting for some novels by Angela Thirkell (Amazon has problems getting The Cottage for me), and Brewster did not disappoint. I picked up 3 of her novels set at the end of WWII and I am happily reading about nannies and tea and rations and village fetes and schoolmasters. Perfect summer reading.

The Young One has been hacking up a lung since Sunday and yesterday I managed to get some cough syrup down her throat but today The Empress determined that The Child Has To Go To The Doctor. The Child protested vehemently, but once I made an appointment for this afternoon, she fell apart and confessed to a host of ailments so I'm suspecting bronchitis at the least.

Tomorrow we are leaving for more sedate shores at a pretty resort town where the tide will only concern us in terms of how much beach will be exposed for our lounging. Surprisingly, we've adapted to it quite well and it's been an education for the children as to how tides are timed and what effect they must have had in simpler times when all communication and travel was determined by their rotation. There's always a knot of people at the bridge, little kids with nets leaning over to catch crabs, an occasional artist painting, dog walkers, and fishermen. We've slowed down enough to barely notice when we have to come and go and we've become proficient at the tide clock. I'm thinking of getting one for my office. I'd like to look up at it whilst in the mist of disgruntled calls with claim reps and tense negotiations over who is assigned what for the calendar the following day and know that the tide is high and if I was on the island, I could do  no more than swing in the hammock, drink another cup of coffee, and plan whether to have bluefish or oysters for dinner.

Need I say it? 

Time and tides wait for no man.


Summer Reprises

(Enjoy this reprise from summers past while I'm away)

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Where are those movies that left an indelible mark in our American consciousness? My husband and I tried to go to the movies over the weekend while we were away. Our choices, in a large megaplex, were Spiderman 2, Dodgeball, Shrek2, and others too mundane to remember. Now, I've seen Shrek2 and it was cute. I may even see Spiderman2, but I doubt that I will remember either in ten years. I can, however, remember seeing the greatest movies of my life, all probably from 1970 to 1985, and not too many after that.

This is a list of favorite Boomer movies, but with the clarification that they were made during the Boomer era, so I don't include movies like Sabrina, anything with Carey Grant, etc., although I love those movies. So this is the list of the movies that formed the years of my teens and twenties, the movies that influenced my expectations of life and love. These are the movies that I still remember lines from, and my husband can tell you the movie theaters where we saw them. So they may not be cinematically or artistically the best movies, but they are the backdrop to the first half of my life. Who can argue with that?

The Great White Hope
Reds
Serpico
Apocalypse Now
5th of July
Ghosthunters
Close Encounters
Godfather I & II
Klute
Romeo and Juliet (with Olivia Hussey)
Jaws
The Thomas Crown Affair (the original)
Annie Hall
Sleeper
Two for the Road
Bonnie and Clyde
Chariots of Fire
Secrets and Lies
Cinema Paradiso
One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest
Clockwork Orange
Chinatown
The Sting
All the President's Men
Patton
The French Connection
Cabaret
Young Frankenstein (what knockers! thank you doctor!  - Stan's commentary)
Star Wars
Saturday Night Fever
Sunday, Bloody Sunday
Kramer v. Kramer
The Turning Point
A Woman Under the Influence
Breaking Away
Dog Day Afternoon
Deliverance

I invite other boomers to add their own in the comments. I'm sure I've missed some.

 


Live from the Cape!

I'm at my favorite cool down and escape from the vacation place - The Cyber Cafe. Yes, I do have a laptop now and could go to a few Internet accessible places, but we just got off a whale watch boat and we have to kill time till past high tide to get back on the island.

Ah, the island. Very interesting place. Not exactly what we pictured when we rented the cottage, but a change. And that was the keynote speech of last summer's vacation: we are tired of where we always stay, Mom. We want something new. Yes, it's true, that by new they meant Cancun or Maine. But y'know what with work, no money, and all the family events this spring, they're lucky we managed to come up with this place. So we are way up the arm of the Cape on this quaint island with dirt roads and a private bay beach, stuck in amidst four other houses, all it appears rented to families with toddlers who like to play Marco Polo on the deck at 7:30 a.m.

Did I mention the green head flies? At the private bay beach?

We have to make our daily travel plans with the precision of Rommel as our first day, we misread the tide chart and the tide clock, and I had to drive back over the roadway to and from the bridge in about half a foot of water, which doesn't sound like much, but trust me,  scary and kills the brakes. And the paint job? Can't find a carwash and Mr. Pom is coming tomorrow night, so we are hoping for thundershowers before he sees the salt spray up to the roof.

So.

We are adjusting to the high tide deal. We have seen a  woman with an easel doing a pastel at sunset on the bridge. We've taken great sunset photos ourselves. We've danced with fiddler crabs as they move to and fro away from our footsteps like a drydocked school of fish. And we've played hide and seek with a little red fox as we drive down the dirt road after sunset. We haven't seen the nesting turtles that we are advised on signs to not disturb. Really, I don't want to run over a nesting turtles. I'm having a hard enough time navigating the overgrown,  narrow washboard dirt roads without breaking an axle or giving The Empress a heart attack.

Yeah, so we're in the car. A lot. On island, there's the whole matter of the greenheads and the girls screaming whenever they bite them. And me. Six bites in six minutes one morning at the bay. Then there's the whole driving up and down Route 6. To where? To where we usually stay. Cause y'know,  they were bored last year, but now they don't feel like they are on the Cape unless we are in that town. So the car knows the way anyway, and what's gas - 3.30 a gallon?

The house, well, The Empress says it is one step above camping and trust me, she's never been in a tent or cabin in her life. But she has her own bedroom and bath , whilst Sister Teacher and I are sharing a double bed, just like sleepovers we had as children, and The Princess, The Young One, and the Cousin are in the other bedroom , and The Boyfriend is on couch. We are very cozy and there's much whispering in the morning not to wake The Boyfriend who is on the couch in the living/kitchen room. Of course, he's awake right away but we pretend to be quiet. I take the coffee grinder into my mother's bathroom and shut the doors.

Now, the weather: hot, yes, but comfortably so. Yesterday we spent at the ocean beach from 9:30 to 7:30. We had fried clams, lobster rolls, and hamburgers. We saw the lighthouse after dark, we had lattes in town, we had ice cream in the car on Sunday when it was so hot that the grown ups opted to watch the beach from the air conditioning of the car.

And today we whale watched. This is  our bazillionth trip, but The Boyfriend's and The Cousin's first time. What a trip! We saw many momma and baby whales, many pods of 3 to 4 whales hanging out, and a little harbor seal who looked up at the big boat in amazement and then swam under and around the boat to entertain us.

The doldrums had set in about two hours into the trip. The sun was glaring on the water and the wind had died. The four whales we were following were just "logging" - sleeping on the surface. Felt like the right thing to do for me, too. Then one whale started getting antsy. You know the type, there's one kid like that in every family. He rolled onto his back and started slamming the surface of the water with his tail, over and over and over, just like a kid hitting a ball on the side of the house. This went on for a good 15 minutes and shutters clicked and videos recorded as the whale would stop every few minutes, roll over, blow, and then start again. The behavior escalated a little more with the tail being shaked from side to side. The naturalist said, "this is surprising". Very astute.

Finally, the whale that was trying to catch a little sun and shut eye, dove down and we expected not to see her again - I'm pretty sure she may have been the mother - when there was a tremendous explosion of water and waves and sound and fury and a 60 ton whale came flying out full breach - spinning - exposing it's white underbelly and snout before crashing back down. The boat broke into thunderous applause and I actually started to tear up.

These, my friends, are the sights you don't see in the Bronx. 


Summer Reprises

(Another favorite from summers ago while I'm on vacation)

Porch Matters

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It’s late at night and I am sitting on my screened porch, candles lit and guttering in the breezes that are making me shiver just a little. It is deliciously cool and dark and quiet. I am alone in the house, except for Mystery Man, who is on the third floor, probably engaged in something nefarious on the computer , or innocently downloading music and IM'ing all his friends (I don't know and that's the reason for his alias).

With only the candles and the dragonfly lights to give light, I can pretend I am sitting on a porch in the Adirondacks or Maine, both places I am yearning to visit lately. Who ever would have thought that this roofed patio would be the center of the house for two seasons of the year? When we moved in, the porch was just a raised cement slab with a roof and railing. Stan and Mystery Man got busy the first summer, after a little prodding by The Empress (me) and they screened it in with a kit from Home Depot.

The simple act of adding screening and a door made the patio into a room. We ripped off the ugly aluminum siding around the old wooden door frame and trashed the ugly screen door. We painted the ceiling and installed a ceiling fan. My brother in law added outdoor outlets and Stan strung up the dragonfly lights. We hauled out our wicker furniture that had been sulking in the basement, and Stan nailed up his weather stick in the corner. Stan's pots of flowers on the stone steps and the little dogwood by the garage frame the view.

The porch is our sacred space. We drink coffee out here, read the papers, and take naps with our feet propped up on the new wicker ottomans. The kids stay up late and entertain friends out here, their voices echoing in the night air. The porch is the DMZ of the household. There's no TV, no radio, and usually (except for tonight) no computer. Reading is the main preoccupation, or eating, and we can't discuss anything too urgent or emotional because our voices carry into the neighborhood.

The weather has been very cool at night and on the porch, we pretend we are camping. I make strong coffee and we sit with our legs under blankets and talk about watching the Perseids meteor shower through our tent flap in Maine twenty years ago, and again ten years later on lawn chairs in our backyard in Fresno, when the sky was filled with fireballs so large and fast that the kids thought we were being invaded by Martians. porch7

All the cool air and strong coffee make our thoughts turn to donuts (doesn't yours?) and we toy with the idea of driving down the hill to the Dunkin' Donut but we are either 1) too lazy, or 2) wise enough to know we'll regret it in the morning, and we stay put. When night completely fills in the spaces beyond the screen, we could be in a forest or in the mountains or any place where night is gentle and dreams come with a soft hand that raises the cotton blankets up against our cheeks and plumps the feather pillows to support our sleepy heads.

I was raised in a house with a big screened porch. It ran the width of the house, accessible through French doors off the dining room. Its proportions were elegant, framed in each corner by a thick, round column topped with a decorative cap. It was large enough to contain the big round picnic table at one end next to the barbecue grill, and have an area for seating at the other. Friends of my parents gave us a set of sturdy, aluminum chairs with cushions as thick as upholstered seating. They were so sturdy and well made that they've lasted about 35 years and I'm sitting on one of the surviving chairs as I type this entry. We slept on the porch in the heat of the summer; we ate breakfast, lunch and dinnerfrom May to October; celebrated graduations and my parents' August birthdays; and had glasses of lemonade and platters of cookies when our relatives came to visit on Sunday afternoons. Hands down, it was the favorite room of the house. My mother hung on a wall a collage of baskets she'd collected over the years, and my father drilled holes for brackets to hang all the houseplants that summered on the porch in macramé hanging baskets.

The summer after my mother sold the house, word spread through the family that the new owners had enclosed the porch into a year round room. One by one, we all made our way past the house and we dumbfounded to see that they had basically torn the porch down and replaced it with a regular room addition, with two double-hung windows. That autumn, we took the kids trick or treating to the house on Halloween and the new owner insisted we come in and look around. We hid our disappointment after we saw that the new, plain Jane box of a room with a large TV and dinette table had replaced our romantic columned porch. My fantasy is to buy back the house some day and replace the porch and have everyone over for a barbecue when the azaleas and hydrangeas are in bloom.

If we had the money, we'd probably enclose this space, but make it into a sunroom lined with windows. It would make a fantastic art studio, with pretty of light and a view of the birch trees and laurel bushes. Of course, we'd have to give up the screens, add walls, windows, heating, and a new floor. We'd be able to get the TV out of the living room, double our seating space, and give everyone a little more elbow room on the holidays, something we dearly need with a large, extended family. It would make a lot of sense and increase the value of our house. But in exchange for more room and year round use, we’d lose the romance of sitting in the dark with candles lit around us and only a thin mesh of screening making us feel cozy against the night. We'd have no reason to lower our voices as night fell, and could switch on a lamp instead of lighting a candle. We’d shut the windows instead of piling on afghans pulled from the trunk. In the morning, we’d have no place to go to avoid the mornings news channels, and we couldn’t eat pizza with only napkins for dishes because we'd have to worry about the upholstery and the carpeting.

So for now, I'm glad we don't have a penny to play with. I'd rather keep our cabin in the city, our tree house under the stars.


Certified Pre-Read Summer Entries

(I expect some posting from the Cape, but since internet access is always a question, here's some favorite reprises from past summers)

At the Beach, But Don't Go In the Water

porch2When we were growing up, there wasn't any money for trips or vacations. Summers were spent at the city beach, where it cost a $1.00 for a summer pass and a dime a day admission for kids and a quarter for adults. The beach was small, but we knew most of the people there and we had a bunch of relatives who kept us company each day.

Since we moved back to the area, we took our kids to see the beach. (My husband grew up a block away and often went to the beach, and we fantasize that we may have sat blanket to blanket, yet never met.)
We drove into the parking lot on the Sound and said to the children:

                       "This is where we spent our summers."
                        "Where?"
                        "At the beach."
                        "What beach?"
                         Pointing out car window with impatience:
                         "There, see that sand, see that big concrete pier?"
                        "That little thing of sand with the steps coming out of the water?"
                        "Well, it's high tide."
                        "Gross. You really were deprived."

Looking at it through my kids' eyes, it did seem a lot smaller and pretty, well, gross. Not much has changed since I was a kid. There's a half-moon spit of sand with concrete steps leading into the murky water of the westernmost part of Long Island Sound. There’s a long, narrow concrete pier with iron railing and, a recent addition, a few tubs of flowers. There are uncomfortable benches, a small snack stand, and I swear, the exact same outdoor showers with the flaking paint and slimy bottoms that were there thirty years ago. There’s actually two beaches, the “new”, forty-year old beach, and the Old Beach, which must be 75 years old. Early photos of the area show the natural, lovely, rock formations that lead down to the water. I assume there were dynamited away to provide a sandy beach and to avoid people injuring themselves if they tried to climb from the rocks into the water.

The swimming area itself is quite small, bounded by a set of ropes. There used to be a float that we swam to, the goal of all kids past seven, and from which we would dive and climb back up about a million times, or push each other in until the lifeguard blew his whistle, because what else was there to do? Even when I was young, the water was periodically closed when we had heavy rains because the waste treatment plant would overflow, or a “red tide”, which I believe were organisms that caused itchiness, was present. Today, there’s actually a sign at the pier that says that from time to time there may be "organisms" in the water that may make swimming hazardous to your health.

I thought my kids would gag.

The other beach-going choice for our city, known as "The Queen City of the Sound" is a county park that boasts a long, narrow beach that virtually disappears at high tide. Before we used to go, we'd check the tide charts and plan our day for low tide so we'd find a place to sit. At least at this park, you could lie on the sand, as opposed to the city beach, where you had to lie on concrete. However, if you didn’t have a pool in your backyard, and I knew no one who did, and if you didn’t belong to a beach club, and we certainly never would, those were your swimming choices, unless you drove the thirty miles to Jones Beach on the ocean, which we did once a year.

There were plenty of beach clubs, beautiful clubhouse with pools and sandy beaches in choice spots all along the coastline. There are also private yacht clubs, many on the small islands that dot our end of the Sound. And there are commercial and industrial uses that block even a view of the Sound for miles.

You can blame the cities and counties of Westchester County for 1) greed; 2) poor civic planning; and 3) greed when it comes to asking why the ownership of the southern coastline of the County is mainly private ownership, industrial use, and land barons. My city, after putting in a marina and a beach, leased out the rest of the cove to a waste treatment plant and energy plant. Isn't that what you'd like to share the water with as you sail out of the harbor? There's a passive use park a mile down the coast, where it struggles to retain its footing amid private beach clubs and now, McMansions shoehorned twenty to a spot. The city is now making noise about cleaning up the harbor, tearing down the industrial and commercial uses, and allowing the end of Main Street to actually look out on the water. Of course, it's caught up in terrific legal wrangling over environmental impact, private use, and money, money, money. I hope my children get to see it, but I doubt I ever will.

This is not out of the ordinary for the rest of the County. The Town of Mamaroneck's large, sandy beach shares a driveway with a county waste treatment plant. The beach was closed for, oh, I think three years, while they tried to figure out how to protect the five beaches on the water from the routinely high coliform counts from spillage from the plant. Read here about Up a ways in Rye, there's a small, pretty city beach next to a county beach, but it's a twenty minute drive from here, and very little parking to be had. There's one or two conservancy areas where one can walk, but very little of the coastline is accessible to the public for any reason.

My "favorite" declaration of public vs. private use is the town of Larchmont's implementation of a chain link fence with barb wire to keep out the riff raff from their town beach. It looks quite charming running along between the shoreline and the million dollars homes. You'll note that in these photos of the town, there are not shots of the fence! And “kudos” to the town of Greenwich, Ct, that has only opened up their beach to non-residents after a local lawyer made it a crusade and went all the way to the Supreme Court to win his case. However, the town still has authority to charge for parking, so they turn away non-residents at the gate, direct them back into town about five miles away to find the town hall where they must purchase a parking ticket for about $35, then drive back to the beach. By then the kids are screaming and crying, the parents are totally fed up, and half the day is gone.

Stan and I were out on Long Island over the Fourth of July. We drove through towns on the North Fork like Oyster Bay and we were impressed as we passed open coast and accessible beaches for mile after mile. Each town has a large beach, and many streets just end at the Sound. Although there were plenty of wealthy, private enclaves, there also were plenty of blue collar beaches, as I call them, and municipal marinas where a family can spend the day and not have to drive forty minutes in traffic and spend $25 to park.

Only in the last twenty years have people woken up to the impact on Long Island Sound and taken measures to stop the pollution, increase public passive use, and to literally try to breathe life into the nitrogen-rich waters that once hosted a grand biodiversity. It is a balancing act to manage the Sound and access to it, but consideration must be given to equal access for the rich and the poor, which nowadays is anyone who is trying to raise a family on less than $100,000 a year in Westchester County.

I love Long Island Sound. It was one of the attractions that drew me back here. But I won't swim in the watersat the western end of the Sound, and couldn’t in good conscience urge anyone to do so. If you live in an area that has public access to water, protect it, support it, and use it judiciously. And become active in your municipality's governance of the waters around you.

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Waving Madly Out the Window

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The bags are in the car.

All the errands are done.

Hell, I forgot gas!

But Mystery Man fixed my tail light.

And Mr. Pom is coming mid-week!

I took photos of my books, art supplies, and fabric projects.

And then I packed the camera in the car.

So you'll have to trust me on how cute they will be.

and personally revealing about my artistic temperament, literary reading, and homey, crafty nurturing side, all the while maintaining just the right chord of mommy blogging sarcasm heartfelt loving of my family and gin.

But here's what I am leaving behind:

photocopies files folders faxes answers voice mail email hard-edged desks fluorescent lights  air conditioning cubicles piles staplers staple removers ballpoint pens ringing phones

and what I will not miss:

humidity dirty sidewalks dog poop rotting garbage trash bags leaking urine soaked doorways dripping air conditioners litter 16 dollars a day to park greasy handrails on court steps courtroom air dripping with the sweat of the crowd poor people  clutching their utility bills and credit card judgments and accented  voices bewildered by summonses hot sweaty cranky kids in tow with wide sweet eyes and tired mothers pregnant brides and cranky clerks  judges who talk on cell phones during trials cell phones that don't work anywhere but on the sidewalk closed doors at work and meetings held in hushed tones and phone calls with raised voices and sidelong glances and lurking in the halls.

and here is what I am anticipating:

sun breeze surf sand sea gulls air soft mornings sleepy afternoons under umbrellas mouths full of briny oysters and no opening the make up bag once and eyebrows be damned the stack of books all lush and juicy dusting off the sketchbook toes in icy water sifting for jingle shells and buying cones and s'mores at night with coffee on the deck and listening to my mother's knitting needles and the kids laughing outside and rounding everyone up to get to the beach and skim boards and peanut butter sandwiches with a side of sand and slushy lemonade Sunday School Brewster Bookstore Nauset Surf The Bookstore Cafe and

most importantly:

Mr. Pom.


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Two days before vacation: I am entering the neck of the bottle - escaping like a genie, trying to squeeze my hefty self through the most narrow opening. One of the other staff attorneys in my unit is overlapping me with vacation for a few days, so we are scrambling to prep and cover the end of the week trials and Monday and Tuesday. Plus some new staff that need to be trained on a major project, a backlog of work from march on, and I am wide-awake alert for most of the night as these things pop through my REM time.

Mr. Pom is not coming with us for this trip. Long story but best to say that he can't go away if his boss is away and that's what happened. He's being a brick, but last night, as I began packing, he vented and was not a happy stay at home camper. And his back is flaring up, so that makes me anticipate some rocky phone calls to and from the Cape.

Fluffernutter was beside herself as we had very violent weather yesterday - a tornado outside Manhattan! Boomers rolling through at all hours, leaving her restless and trying to simultaneously get under the bed or on the bed or in the room or out of the room right after we went to bed. After we coaxed her back into the room, we gave her one of the sedatives the vet prescribed and she finally fell asleep and so did we.

And I haven't packed a thing! Neither has The Little One. Dilemma: stay late to work or get home to do laundry and pack? Methinks Friday night will see little sleep. But then - escape!


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For the Cape:

camera
laptop
2 beach chairs
umbrella
insulated beach bag
2 large canvas totes
boogie board
skim board
binoculars
2 beach towels
sunscreen
thermos
**************
linens
bath towels
coffee grinder
vodka
**************
handpiecing fabric, template, thread, needles
squares of Fabriano Artistico
gouache
watercolor palette
brushes, pencils, etc in black kit
Kraft paper journal
black ink pad
some stamps
bag of books
***************
straw hat
Wellfleet hat
2 bathing suits
black cover up
two prs sandals - remember new Keens
clogs
denim jacket
pants
tops
robe
pj's
shorts

Did I forget anything - let me know!





Creative Process

The process of creating is infinitely more interesting to me than the finished product. I am more likely to buy a book about process than product and I'm a sucker for books that show more than a peek inside an artist's studio. In the current issue of Cloth, Paper, Scissors, I showed the wallhanging I made in the fiber art retreat taken with Lesley Riley in the spring. I thought you'd might like to see how it went together.

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I began with the photo - I wanted something celebrating marriage and womanhood. It's a funky studio photo of some relatives of my grandmother. The top piece is several pieces put together. The layer with the tatting around the outside is a dresser scarf cut in half. The blue vine fabric is a piece of a decorator sample. The reclining woman is a photo transfer. The red ribbons - from a Williams Sonoma packaging.

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My success in transferring the wedding couple was a disaster. The overhead transparencies by 3M do not work for this process. Luckily, another woman in class was able to bring home some photos for me and print them on fabric. I decided to go with a photo of my mother as bridesmaid in her teens. The photos was a little stark against the fabrics I'd chose, so I painted it with Caran d'Arche watercolor crayons. The bottom fabric is a decorator remnant, next layer is a blue batik, then a piece of cheesecloth I painted, more decorator samples, a piece of a gauzy curtain, and a beautiful blue silk dupioni from my tablemate.

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I want the piece to have the half oval at the top, sort of like a crown. I added a piece of navy chiffon that beaded for the effect of a spray of the sea.  I liked the composition, but I was frantically pulling out all the stash I packed because I didn't like the colors. The photos was too red, white, and blue and the colors of the whole composition were kind of limp, especially the piece I'd painted.

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about this time, Lesley took out her Golden fluid acrylics and showed us how she "paints" her fabrics by diluting the acrylics and just dipping the fabrics in it. Of course! My mind sprang into action as I remembered using Quinacridone Gold in my paintings when the colors weren't rich enough or to smooth out colors that weren't quite complimentary. Lesley had a big bottle of the Quin Nickel Gold and I began first by painting the photos. It dulled out the jarring red, white and blue and gave it a sepia tone. I painted the gauzy curtain with the Quin Red, and added some bronze paint to the piece of embossed green paper.

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More Quin Nickel Gold was painted to the arch at the top, and to the floral background fabric. By painting all the fabrics with the same overdye, the piece began to be cohesive and gel.

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The part I like best is now beginning. I find two antique Bakelite buttons from my grandmother's button box and add those like punctuation points to the piece. It's hard to see here, but I sewed teal bugle beads all around the small fabric transfer on the arch, and I quilted the fabric transfer on the machine. Eventually, I added a blanket stitch around the blue fabric after I narrowed it to the width of the other fabrics. I added a bias binding made of a gorgeous olive green silk Midori ribbon around the whole piece.

To see the whole piece, look in the current issue of CPS - I'm not teasing - I just didn't take a photo of it before I sent it to the magazine!

The interesting part of the process is the one that is the most frustrating for me. I only had a vague idea of what I wanted to do. I wasn't sure about any of the fabrics or images I'd packed. I knew I wanted to make something with an intensity of color, but nothing I had was working. By assembling a variety of textures - silk, embossed paper, striped damask, gauzy fabric, and a rich drapery fabric, I began to find the look I wanted. The red ribbon was jettisoned early on as being too strong and "schoolgirlish" for the way the piece was progressing. Once I got home, I narrowed the blue batik fabric, added more dimension by blanketstitching, and beading, and then had to find a suitable fabric for the backing.

I was able to get the piece done in a very short amount of time (for me) in the multi-day workshop setting. More importantly, I couldn't crumple it up and toss it in the closet with so many eyes watching me. I was able to let the piece evolve on its own without trying to railroad it into one direction. Trust your instincts and if you work like I do, usually without a working sketch or mock up,m you have to let the piece and yourself rest as you audition different fabrics, colors, and designs.


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We go to Cape Cod - next Saturday!

I've waited a year to write that sentence. What a relief.

But as fate has it, this will be a different twist on the Pomegranate twenty-year tradition (except for time spent in TN and CA) on going to the Cape. This year we are

  • going for one week in July, and
  • one week in August and
  • Mr. Pom is not coming for the first week
  • and all the kids and Mr. Pom are coming for the second week

Why a bulleted list? Why such drama?

Do you have any idea how many machinations (my new word), plans, and drama are involved with such planning? First, finding a house for both weeks - that we can afford - ha! Weeks in Cape Cod are 400% more expensive than our first trip in 1988, thus requiring great commitment to family tradition and great financial juggling to pull off. This is compounded by the fact that we no longer fit into a 3 bedroom, not with grown kids, one of who is taller than anyone has ever been in either side of the family, and who no longer think it is cute to sleep in a bed together (but, who no longer falls out of the bed, fast asleep, every ten minutes, involving his father videotaping it int he dark bedroom. We were starved for entertainment back then).

Secondly, we now have to try to pin down a week when Mr. Pom can get off, Mrs. Pom can escape court, and the older Pomettes are finished with their summer jobs (which are at pools, so I don't count them as jobs since I never had a job that involved wearing a swimsuit and applying cocoa butter everyday). But, we have to consider the youngest Pomette who will die of boredom if she has to wait until the end of August To Do Something (trips to the beach with cousins and various pools Do Not Count).

Thirdly, there is the Pom sister who has come on every Cape Cod vacation sans one, so going without her would be a sacrilege. And lately, the Pom grandmother comes because, well, she's retired and she can do whatever she wants. And she makes sure we don't eat the leftover fudge for breakfast every day.

Are you still with me? I'm exhausted and assume you are, too.

This year, the first week will be only Grandmother and Sister Pom, Mrs. Pom, and The Young One for the whole week. The Princess and The Boyfriend are coming for a long weekend, and Mr. Pom is promising to come mid-week, but we all know the building will explode or computers will melt down or something, so we are not standing by the bridge with a lantern.

Which brings me to the subject of The Bridge. We've never stayed on this particular part of the Cape. This year we were looking for something different. Last summer, we were slightly bored by the usual beaches, or so I was told by many family members. Enter Blackbird and her recommendations. My sister remembers this while surfing for houses and finds one in the same place. On and island. One you cannot leave or enter when it is high tide. No big deal. I download a tide chart. I think, since it lists every harbor except where we're going and then tells me to add 30+ for our town.

Huh?

I figure Mr. Pom will handle this, but then he pulls the fast one that he can't come for the whole week. Grandmother Pom hyperventilates a tad because she's worried about Emergencies as grandmothers do. I'm perturbed because what if I can't drive into town and get a latte due to the tide? Or what if I can't get back with the latte and they have to wait for me for two hours to go to the beach. Not pretty.

There's a reason why Pomegranates do not hike, do tours of European cities, or catch trains and planes. We do not like Anxiety on vacations! We like complacency, stupor almost. We like the tried and true. We like the expected. (Mr. Pom hasn't ordered any other ice cream other than a hot fudge sundae in thirty years. What, complain? He also hasn't been with another woman in thirty years, so I'm saying nothing!)

Later on, after I figure out whether I have a stomach virus or another kidney infection, I will continue with the pre-vacation theme by showing you what I've packed thus far. I'm thinking this will be a cinch since I only have to bring luggage for The Young One and myself. Plus two chairs, two boogie boards, one umbrella, sheets and towels, bags of books, boxes of art supplies and oh yea, some groceries since we are On An Island.

I would say that it would be easier to stay home, but after this work year, you may have to have a manhunt on The Island to get me to leave. No one's voting me off. I'll be the only one brave enough with the four-wheel drive to drive over the bridge when the tide is coming in. Ha!


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Friday night is cool, no need for air conditioners droning away. The porch is so welcoming as I sit in the rocker and pull up the wicker footstool. The dragonfly lights are lit and give a soft ambience to the room as the darkness deepends and porch lights comes on. The candles are lit and I am drinking a latte courtesy of Mystery Man. Our internet connections have been mysteriously fixed and all is well with the world.

We all came home at a decent hour and pitched in for Friday night dinner. The Young One husked the corn we bought on the 4th and never used. Mr. Pom made a delicious beer-can-in-the-butt-chicken on the grill. I roasted eggplant chunks in the oven. All three kids were home and we sat on the porch with our plates and they all talked about their jobs. It's pretty funny to hear my big, 20 year old son talking about having to change one of his camper's swim suits because the 4 year old went in his pants or how he had to scold them for playing in the bathroom. What a pisser~ no pun intended.

A short blogging break while I realize that Fluffernutter is quietly hiding in the corner of the porch with a corn cob, which she removed stealthily from Mystery Man's dinner plate that got left on the porch.  Even she needs a treat on a Friday night. It's cozy to have us all on the porch, yakking about car trips we've taken and getting up to replenish our plates and pick up the conversation as we sit back down. Although The Princess is theoretically home "for good", I'm well aware of how few times we all have together as a family under one roof. We're spending more money than we should for a week on the Cape in August after the big kids are done with camp. How many more times do we have left to do that?

So that is how we are enjoying summer at the Pomegranate household. Usually we are raring to go to the beach and be out of the house. This summer, I just want to stay home, sit on the porch, read, sew, paint, and make a stab at all the disorganization that has grown with everyone home. The backyard is our goal for this weekend, as it needs a good raking, sweeping, and tidying up since our new fence was put up. I just want to hang out here, cook things that take too long to do during the week, and tidy up the cupboards. Sounds more like autumn activities, but it just seems right this year to stay close to home.


Mr. & Mrs. Pom Go to the Farm

Mr. Pom and I both had 4 days off over the long weekend - supposedly. He was the first to crack, with a late night call that the a/c had broken down in their computer room and the temperatures had risen to a dangerous level. So off he went Sunday in the late night to see what could be done and didn't get home until 4:00 a.m.

I was already waffling on going in on Monday since there were two trials on Wed that hadn't been settled or fully prepped. I didn't sleep well with Mr. Pom gone, and after Fluffernutter decided to throw up several times in our bedroom at 6:00 a.m. and it was pouring rain, I figured I'd go in. I found that it's better to jettison a vacation day if all I'm going to do is sit and fret about work.

So we were both pretty tired on the 4th, but all the kids had places to go, so we could take it easy. We drove upcounty to go to some orchards and when we got there, we found out that even the ducks were too hot to be out in the midday sun.

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The roosters, however, were not deterred by the heat, and in fact were crowing for a ....cockfight. I'm not sure what the beef was but two of them were circling each other aggressively and we were ready to get it on video, until one of them turned their eyes on .... me.

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We grabbed two pots of flowers and beat a hasty retreat into the shop and away from the rooster showdown. Maybe they were all bravado since the ducks didn't stir despite all the noise.

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We were looking for herbs but found this beautiful bougainvillea. We didn't buy it, though, since their prices were absurd. We bought three scraggly basil plants: a lemon, a lime, and a black basil. Couldn't find any regular ol' basil. In true Pomegranate fashion, they've been sitting in their box outside the porch. I'll get them in the pot on Saturday and there's plenty of rain coming down to water them.

We were rescued from the quietest 4th on record by going to the fireworks with the sisters and the neices and nephews. We were all cool and patting ourselves on the back by finding a much closer venue to  watch them thean the designated park on the water that was a bit closer than the long walk involved. Then as we were leaving, we discovered that the school where we were hanging out had a parking lot where lots of folks had parked, thereby avoiding the several blocks of walking in the humdity that we were facing. We'll remember that for next year.

Yesterday I just hung out and took care of some errands. The Young One went to the movies, her cousins slept over, and I made pancakes and bacon for everyone in the morning. Back to work today. Hopefully someone else took over the trial calendar for tomorrow.

Go Italy in the World Cup!