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We're Gonna Need A Bigger Boat

 

On the days when the town beach is jammed and the line for the parking lot stretches a mile down the road, the privilege of taking your vehicle to the outer beach is  priceless.

The outer beaches on the Atlantic side of the Cape are accessible by a long walk over the dunes or by ORV'ing. Taking a SUV out onto the dunes is by permit only, and over the years we've never managed to get our act together to watch the video, get the ORV kit for the car, and apply for the permit.

Oh, but what were we waiting for!

 

 

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The outer beach is a magical place.

You never know what you may find there.

I was sitting in my sand chair, drinking coffee and day dreaming about schooners and sea captain's wives when I heard a shout from up the beach.  It took a second to register what I was looking at as all I could see was a long, black streak coming out of the surf.

 

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Looking for all the world like a big inflatable kiddie toy, was a whale.

A long black  whale, being winched  out of surf, gently and with dignity, by a frontloader.

The Princess, whose photos grace this post, has always had a deep attachment to whales. In fact, she has a tiny tattoo of one on her inner ankle. No sooner did I yell, "whale!" than she took off up the beach in a sprint.

 

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The beautiful creature appeared to be asleep as its gleaming black skin had no external signs of injury or disease. Rescue workers were examining it and discussing what to do. We hoped against hope that the beautiful creature could be revived, but it was dead. It had been reported to Fish and Wildlife Management by a surfer who discovered its body rolling in the surf around 5:30 that morning.

 

 

 

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A small crowd  gathered and we stood a respectful distance away, both fascinated and appalled at the apparent plan to lift it into the bucket of the bulldozer to take it away.

 

 

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The town was helping the rescue folks from Provincetown to take the whale for a necropsy and burial further up the spit.

 

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The small crowd that gathered to watch the pilot whale being trussed onto the front loader fell silent as it was lifted off the sand.  In the bright light of morning, the beauty of the ink black creature, with it's closed eyes and  slightly agape mouth revealing a stubble of teeth, was enormously moving. I had to restrain myself not to walk over to it and lay my hand on its head.

It may have been an ignominous end for the body of a mammal whose life was spent roiling in the deep, cold waters of the Atlantic, frolicking with its brethren, blowing spouts and breaching and fin slapping on glorious summer afternoons. For those of us who witnessed its winching out of the water and loading onto the lift, however, it was a stark reminder that the land we were visiting was not a Disney simulator ride, but a place where fish and mammals and humans  coexist in an uneasy alliance in which only the humans have the ability to consciously plan how to manage and conserve the fragile ecosystem.

Our family has gone on countless whale watching cruises and have never ceased to be awed by the majesty of the humpbacks, the minkes, and the pilot whales. We've been baptized by the spray of a humpback blowing spout across the deck as it breached from the underside of the ship. We've had whales follow in pods and fin and tail slap for miles to entertain us. We've seen whales breach three times their height over the ocean, plunging out of the sea as if to pierce the sky. We have never left a cruise feeling other than awe and amazement that such beauty and wildness still exists on an earth.

After the bulldozer drove down the beach with the whale in its mouth, its tale hanging awkwardly astern, we felt sad and deflated. Before we could disperse,  the captain of the rescue team came over to speak to us.  Being from New York, I expected to receive a scolding that we had gotten too close or interfered with their rescue efforts.

Not at all.

He told us about the surfer finding it that morning, that they thought it may be an elder whale since its teeth were very worn and it was smaller in girth than it should be, and that they suspected it died a natural death as it had no obvious signs of distress or injury. I felt relieved that awesome creature had not been felled by human hand, whether by intent or omission, such as propeller or fishing line.

He thanked the town for allowing them to arrive on the scene before disturbing the body and for letting them perform a necropsy before burial at the end of the beach.  I think we all stood there with our mouths slightly open, fascinated by his off the cuff summation of the event and feeling validated that we had in fact witnessed something important and not just out of the ordinary.  We were all struck by the professionalism and seriousness of all involved in responding to the event, and their courtesy in educating us as to what occurred.

Later on in the week, we had a similar reaction to our encounter with one of the National Seashore rangers. During a beach bonfire, the kids noticed a shore bird that was having trouble getting out of the surf. The kids helped it onto the sand and it did not  fly away, but just took a few wobbly steps and stopped.  The kids decided it was weak and  proceeded to feed it hot dog rolls. (I know we've all had our French Fries snatched by bold gulls on the beach, but I don't think it needed to eat hot dog rolls, but the kids were on a rescue mission.) 

Their mother, my cousin, was upset that the bird wouldn't make it through the night and wanted to do something about it. Later one, when a ranger came by to check for our bonfire permit, my cousin told him about the bird. He said he thought it may be an old bird who was tired and yes, it was possible that it might not make it through the night, and that's just part of the natural world. (I was beginning to feel like an elder care worker at that point.)

My cousin was dying for the ranger to  do something to help that bird, but the ranger kindly advised her, "This is the National Seashore. Our philosophy is to allow all wildlife to have the privilege to live and die in the wild as nature occurs."

He then recounted a recent event where horrifed beach goers watched a coyote drag off a baby seal. As you can imagine, people were crying and screaming and demanding that the rangers take action. They did not intervene. The National Seashore's philosophy of nature management is to not intervene in natural acts and to let nature takes it course.  

Despite the horror to our eyes of witnessing a baby animal being attacked by any predator, he asked us to consider it from a different perspective. "What a privilege it was" he said, "to be witness to such a primal act in nature".

It was a hard nugget to swallow, but we all understood that the National Seashore's philosophy of management of nature by not managing or intervening is really the soundest practice.

However, I don't think any of us really wish to witness a baby seal being dragged off by a coyote. And we're grateful none of our kids were there when it happened. We're just not that John Muir but really just a bunch of tenderfoots from the big city.

 

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Which is why my cousin  just couldn't help herself and when she thought the bird was cold, she just had to try to wrap it up in a towel, which, of course, he promptly wriggled out of and wobbled away. It stayed on the perimeter of our campfire all evening, but don't worry, we left it right where we found it.

Of course, if you do come across injured or stranded wildlife, you should not try to intervene yourself but contact your local wildlife management agency. The New England Aquarium's Marine Rescue Alert Team has a motto that says it all: "Keep the WILD in WILDlife".

 

In the waning hours of Hurricane Irene, in your rain-soaked houses and branch-littered yards, take a moment to consider the ocean in all its mystery. Think of all the fish and mammals that we cannot see, whose beauty we will never know, but whose presence are vital to our planet. Take a look at the New England Aquarium's Marine Animal Rescue Team, or one in your area of the country. There's even a blog where you can read and see pictures about their contingency plans for Hurricane Irene.

 

If you made it safely through this hurricane or tropical storm, how about giving a donation to a marine rescue team that will help care for those marine animals that are stranded or injured in storms and  who risk their own lives to detangle a 100 year old sea turtle from a fishing line or save a stranded pod of dolphins? 

 

 

 


To the Sea!

If you need us, we'll  be here:

 

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We'll be grilling, boarding, and reading:

 

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Hanging out with our fave cousins:

 

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Maybe we'll have the crab. If the gulls don't get to it first.

 

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Gas up your ORV and hang a left.

 

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There's plenty of room.

 

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See you in a couple of days.

 

For real this time.


Grey Skies Are Gonna Clear Up

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And if not, wear a sweatshirt.

 

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Get a cup of coffee

 

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Make yourself a sandwich with  crusty bread, thick slices of cheddar, and the grainiest mustard you can find.

 

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Pack your new book.

 


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Don't forget dessert.


 

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And savor the joy of an almost empty beach during the height of the August rush.

 

Vacations need alone time.

 

 

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Find it wherever you can.


The Softness of Evenings

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Why is it only on vacation that I acknowledge the ephemeral evancescence of evening?

 

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Vacations bring me up short with the realization that if I were the God of Time, I would live my life only in  increments of mornings and evenings, leaving afternoons and nights to lesser mortals.

 

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The delirious delight of fresh beginnings and soft landings, of feet touching a new day not cossetted by carpets or lit by flourescents. Of endings sweet and unprocessed, technicolor salutes.

 

 

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Powerless to grab the hands of the clock and bringthem  to a screeching halt, all I am left with is to linger, light the candles, start the firepit, plug in the lanterns, and remain outside in the woodsmoke until I can no longer keep my head from dropping on to my chest.

 

 

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These slow, easy evenings marked by late meals and torchlight reading, of letting day leach into evening leach into night, of going to sleep with woodsmoke in my hair, of being soft and gentle with my time, these days then are the brightest days of all.


My Inner Hippie

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Sometimes life can be a river of unidentifiable brown sludge.

 

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Sometimes you just have to pick up the poop.

 

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Sometimes you just have to float.

 

Hope you are sliding through Saturday on waves of good karma.


Almost Wordless Wednesday: A Rant-Free Post & A Short Sign Off

Thank you all for putting up with my rant at the beginning of the week. What a way to start a vacation week! My stomach was in knots for days.

Sister #1 facebooked me with the phone # for Apple Support and since I have an Apple Care account, the techies were able to "interface" with the Itunes people and work out some of the problems. (You must need top security clearance to actually speak to an Itune rep. ) It was only today that I finally received a reply email from the email I sent on Sunday alerting them that I had been hacked. I am almost done with it, but it has caused so much havoc with other online accounts, credit reporting, etc.,  that I have spent most of my time online or in the basement dealing with some nasty house problems.

 

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Needless to say, it has weighted me down and took some of the jazz out of our first few days. I've almost untangled the mess and we should be free-floating  soon. At the very least, this should be my last day stuck in the cottage whilst waiting for various repair peeps.

 

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Yesterday was glorious. I took the afternoon "off" and  I accomplished something I set out to do over two years ago:

 

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I rode a bicycle for the first time since Micalangela was about 4! She and I rented bikes and biked for almost two hours on the Cape Cod Rail Trail. I was a bit shaky at first and had to hide behind a store and use their parking lot to get my bike legs. Micalangela was very patient and encouraging and I soon was zipping around. I can't wait to do it again - hopefully, tomorrow!

 

 

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The day was cool, sunny, and dry, and a harbinger of the change of scenery. We could not have picked a better day for me to get back on two wheels. We rode through such gorgeous scenery  that I soon relaxed, untensed the hunched shoulders and neck, stopped choking the life out of the handlebars and brakes, and remembered the joy of bicycling with the wind at my  face and the world flying by.

 

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We stopped at an overlook and took pictures of all the natural beauty that surrounded us.

 

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And posed for a few pics to memorialize the day.

 

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We would have ridden to the beach, but we only had a half hour left on our rental.  We had  cleverly rented the bikes across the street from our favorite coffee and ice cream store so we could end up back there at the end.  I sat in the shade and Micalangela went in and got us cold drinks. It was only in the sixties yesterday and you'll notice some people in sweaters. I soon had to move into the sun as I was sweaty from biking and it was very breezy.

 

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We were too tired to go out to eat, and after a short nap on the sofa,  I made a simple pizza margherita and not a piece was left. After dinner, I opened a painting journal that I hadn't cracked since we got here and did a few spreads. I'll share those pictures with you later in the week.

 

For now, I'm going to start reading The Bird Sisters while I wait for repairman #3 (or is it 4?). My sweet niece is here and the girls already called that the beach parking lot is closed, so they are going to rent bikes and ride back. (Looks like I started something). The Empress is reading a Swedish crime novel and we may all go to the beach for dinner since it should be emptied out by that time.

So for the rest of the week, I am signing off. I've never had my nose in my laptop or be so tethered to my phone as this trip. I'm sure you all understand the need for me to zone out and I'll be back with more tales of bikes and woods and beaches and sharks and wet dogs and warm hubbies (soon I hope!)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


VACA...NONE? Vol. 2

POST-EDIT:

ADD:    

  • Run to hardware store to buy Shop Vac when plumber kindly points out that basement is filling with water from the downpour leaking in through the window and has now covered two rooms.
  • Gasp in horror when Micalangela shows up with the cover to her catalytic converter in her hand, which she had to retrieve from the side of the road when it fell off on the way from New York.

Just wondering: what zodiac hell have I entered into?

 

 

Monday: First official Vaca Day (coz the wknd is, y'know, the weekend)

  • Pouring down rain like crazy (but okay, I can chill with one of the eleventy billion books I brought or even trying WRITING THE NOVEL or how about PAINTING?)

However, before I can get to Relaxation Station, I must:

  • Determine if the water on the basement floor is from the dehumidifier hose or, oops, no, from the ceiling where it just dripped on my head, so must call plumber

Before I can call the plumber, however,

  • I need to mop the floor so the water doesn't soak any more than it has into the wallboard and we have The Great Mold Caper of last year reoccur,  so I have to go to the store and get a better mop

Before I can go to the store, however,

  • I need to wait for the mouse guy, which is why I'm in the basement in the first place and discovered the leak

Before I can even deal with the mice and the leak, I have to

  • cancel a VISA that someone opened by stealing my identity and change all my passwords on all my online accounts and delete any saved credit cards on every online account I have

Before I can do that, however,

  • I have to figure out what bank the VISA is from, which means either accessing my Itunes, which was hacked, or getting a credit report

Before I can access my Itunes, however,

  • I have to get the attention of the IDIOTS at  Apple, who allowed someone to hack into my account, change my password, emails, and billing info and now I can't reset my password or contact Apple, cause my password doesn't work and this whole stupendously nasty affair can take Apple up to 48 HOURS BEFORE THEY RESPOND TO MY EMAIL WHILST SOME IDIOT IS CHARGING $50 GIFT CERTIFICATES TO MY ACCOUNT AND I AM GETTING THOSE EMAILS, BUT NOT THE RESET PASSWORD EMAILS AND OH, MY NEW ADDRESS ON THE ACCOUNT IS SOME TOWN IN IOWA

Before I can cancel the VISA, however, I have to get a credit report

  • WHICH TAKES 3.5 HOURS AND DOESN'T SHOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS FRAUDULENT VISA, SO I HAVE TO PAY FOR ALL SORTS OF CREDIT FRAUD ALERTS
  • I have to talk to paypal, Amex, Zappos, Amazon, and several other places and cancel accounts, delete credit card info, change passwords, and curse mightily

And then I get to call Mr. Pom at work on a Monday morning whilst he's in a meeting and tell him about:

  • the mice
  • the leak
  • the identity theft

And he then curses mightily.

And then I can have breakfast and a cup of coffee

 

Note to self:  Sell house/buy one way plane ticket to Bora Bora.

 

 


The August Slide

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Poor Micalengela! Her mother actually showed up at her job and took pics in between bites of  crostini. So she had to quit. Kids today!

 

Summer is melting into the doldrums of heat and thunderstorms, drying grasses and leaves, and the tumble of plants that have outgrown their stakings.

I am tumbling, too.

I stood in front of the closet on Monday morning with a dumb glare fixed on my face and rejected articles of clothing strewn on the wooden floor. Nothing fits thanks to crazy eating patterns since I went back to work. Whatever fits is boring, used, dirty, in need of pressing,  too short (skirts) or too long (pants).

My morning routine is five minutes longer as I pretend that the "roots" cover-up crayon is doing its job until I get to the hairdresser on Thursday. I went a little too long between appointments because I was stretching the dollar.

And I went to sleep on Sunday night with wet hair, something I N.E.V.E.R. do, but it was so hot and I was so tired from a day of entertaining. So I pretended all day in court that the crazy bush on my head was actually someone else's hair and mine was quite tumbly and curly and not all frizzed straight out and rooted in gray.

We recuperated last night with pizza margherita and three hours of Kardashian coma.

Sunday was a  party for The Empress for her 86th birthday, which actually is later in the month. Though she is coming with us to Cape Cod,  the whole family won't be together on her day, so we decided to have a cake on Sunday and crowd as many people as could fit into our really hot, humid house.

 

 

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How do you like the cake that Sister #5 made? I whipped the cream and hulled the berries! The cream was curdling as we cut it.

 

The party was lovely despite the steamed heat that was pouring in the windows and the ineffectual little "sppprprprt" from the undersized air conditioner in the living room. Mr. Pom was sitting on the a/c when he came back in from grilling two dozen sliders. I had to throw several bottles of beer on his face before he recover and could eat lunch.

 

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Needless to say, between heat, parties, gearing up to get Micalengela packed up for college before we all go away, and the fact that we are going away and I haven't done a thing,  no art or writing is getting done at our house.

Today will be quiet except for Mr. Pom's sobbing as he watches our retirement funds disappear on the screen.  Better get that book written, Mrs. Pom!!!

I hope you have had the sense to spend the rest of this month with your feet in water and your nose in a book. Just get me to Saturday and I will be doing the same. Until then, remember: ice cream cures all ills.

 

 

 


Meta World

 

 

Where did this week go?

 

 

I have no idea.

 

It started here on Sunday at Wave Hill, but in between then and now is a blur.

 

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You cannot bring your own chairs to Wave Hill and you cannot lie on the grass (that's a yoga class in the background) but you will fee like a turn of the century robber baron when you sit in these chairs and read the paper whilst overlooking The Hudson River.

 

 

 

I'd say it was a busy work week, but they all are, so that doesn't account for my virtual amnesia about what I did this week.

 

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I remember that we had company at the beginning of the week.  One of Micalenagela's college friends came up to the city to visit and spent a couple of nights here.

They tried to go to the Alexander McQueen exhibit at The Met, but they wouldn't wait the 2.5 hours to get in. What kind of artists are they? After all, there were only about eleventy thousand at the museum that day, it being high summer and all.

The Painter reads the blog, it seems, and has been doing so for awhile. I think actually being at our house was a little like going inside a house of mirrors for him. He was so sweet and a little shy, especially when I put him on the spot about teasing Micalangela about the blog. (Told them there would be flash photos taken in the middle of the night for blogging.)

Being midweek, no elaborate meals or fancy grilling was accomplished for their visit. It was just sliders and chicken wings and some watermelon. Mr. Pom was in work mode, which means he acts like Spencer Tracy in Father of the Bride, and that usually scares off the kids' friends.

I always wonder when I meet blog readers how they react to the reality of our lives. After all, everyone knows that any account of life is always edited. I write about specific things here and carefully edit the totality of our family's experience.

That's just what writers do. Who would want to read a blog that told it all - who would have time to read a blog that tells it all? Especially since, as in any family, "all of it" is not my story to tell.

I hope he comes back, perhaps for Christmas? Then we will give him The Full Pomegranate experience.

As for the rest of you, in one week I begin my two weeks on the Cape and I have to pack up  my stuff (books, art supplies, books, art supplies, oh, maybe a bathing suit - nah, just a bathing top and board shorts.)

We've discovered Flying Lanterns and are going to try them out this summer in anticipation of wedding frivolities.

 

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I'm sure there will be pictures!

The Empress turns 86 when we are away, so we are having lunch with her at our house tomorrow. Sister #5 is making Aunt Anita's sponge cake and we're having it as strawberry shortcake and I can't wait!

I owe you all a Wave Hill post and hope to get it up before Monday.

Enjoy this August weekend!